Fetish Desires
Before you begin to explore the world of fetish dating or try anything that could be remotely construed as fetish desire, you and your partner need to observe a few ground rules. This is not negotiable, in order to have safe, healthy and consensual sex, you and your partner have to be in full agreement with what you are doing. While it might be hard or awkward to start this conversation, think of how embarrassing or potentially devastating it will be if you do something your partner does not welcome.
If you or your fetishist partner has been thinking about introducing a new element into your fetish sexual relationship, it is important to talk about it. Make sure you both want to try fetish things. Talk about what will be involved, how far you will pursue your fetish fantasy, the particulars, and anything else you can think of. If your partner seems interested, even aroused, you are both ready to do it.
If your partner is still hesitant or unhappy, you need to talk more before you begin. You might try sharing an erotic film or book with your lover to see if he or she also finds it arousing.
You have to talk to your partner about incorporating some kind of fetishes sexual practices into your sexual relationship, think it over carefully. Do you want to do it? If you are unsure, try picking up an erotic book or video that features that particular sexual act. If you find it arousing as you are watching or reading it, you may be ready to try it in real life. Do not be frightened or hesitant about discussing your desires with your partner, just make sure you want to go there before you go there; do not open doors you can not close.
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